Interview with Milli Hill, author of The Positive Birth Book (The Green Parent)

Interview with Milli Hill, author of The Positive Birth Book (The Green Parent)

GP June July 2017

The June/July edition of The Green Parent magazine includes the latest in my series of interviews with parenting authors and experts.

I spoke to Milli Hill, the founder of the Positive Birth Movement, about The Positive Birth Book and how women can be empowered to have the birth they want.

You have rights and you have choices. You can be in the driving seat and decide what feels right for you. You have options and it’s worth exploring them. And finally, you can do it! You CAN do it.

I was very taken with this book and have since been recommending it to all my pregnant friends. It contains everything you might ever want to know about birth and is written in a relaxed, chatty style. I wish I had read it before I had my two children! Whatever a positive birth means to you, this book will make you believe you can do it.


You can read the feature here (PDF).

Books I finished in February 2017

Books I finished in February 2017

I did a bit better with my reading in February than I did last month, but I’m still finding it challenging to knuckle down and finish books instead of having several on the go at the same time.


Big Little Lies – Liane Moriarty

I’d heard good things about Liane Moriarty and picked this up on a whim in a charity shop. I was glad when it turned out to be less “chick lit-ty” than I feared. It was an intelligently-written look at relationships, bullying and the damage that secrets can do. I loved the interview snippets from the supporting cast of school parents and although you know early on that there has been a murder, I didn’t guess the identities of the victim or the perpetrator. I wonder whether everyone relates to a different character (mine was Madeline)? I’ve since found out it’s been made into a star-studded TV series (my copy doesn’t have the photo cover). It would make a great book club book.


The Positive Birth Book – Milli Hill

I was lucky enough to read a preview copy so I could interview the author for The Green Parent and have since been recommending it to all my pregnant friends. Whatever a positive birth means to you, this book will make you believe you can do it. It contains everything you might ever want to know about birth and is written in a relaxed, chatty style. I wish I had read it before I had my two children! It’s due out in March.



Clutterfree with Kids – Joshua Becker

This wasn’t quite what I’d expected – I was hoping for a more practical step-by-step guide to decluttering, a sort of “KonMari with kids” – but it was an easy-to-read overview of minimalism as a whole with some focus on families with children. Is it even possible to be clutter-free with kids? You might need a bit of an extra push to actually get started on the toy cull, but at least you’ll know why it’s a good idea.


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Interview with Jackie Singer, author of Birthrites (The Green Parent)

Green Parent June/July 2015

The June/July issue of The Green Parent magazine includes the latest in my series of interviews with parenting experts.

I spoke to Jackie Singer, author of Birthrites, about why it’s important to mark the significant times in our lives, and how to go about doing it.

It might be that we have a need to give thanks and celebrate. It might be a need to grieve. Either way, creating ritual is life-enriching. It reminds us of what is really astonishing about being human: birth and death, and the little and the big transitions on the way.

You can view a PDF of the feature here.

Baby-led weaning expert Gill Rapley (The Green Parent)


**UPDATE 4/11/16 This piece has just been added to the Green Parent website – How to Get Started in Baby Led Weaning **

The latest issue of The Green Parent magazine (August/September) includes the second of my regular interviews with parenting experts.

I spoke to baby-led weaning authority Gill Rapley about the advantages of BLW and how to get started on this method of introducing solids.

Baby-led weaning is about respect for the baby, trusting they know what they need. It makes mealtimes more enjoyable for the whole family, as there is no pressure on the parents or the baby.

You can view a PDF of the feature here.

(I did BLW with my own son and would definitely recommend parents consider it as an option.)

Feature: My Journal (epilepsy and pregnancy) – Epilepsy Today magazine

I wrote this feature as part of Epilepsy Action’s HealthE mum-to-be campaign and I truly hope that my experience will reassure women with epilepsy that they can go on to have healthy pregnancies and healthy babies.

This article was first published in Epilepsy Today, March 2013 (copyright Epilepsy Action 2013). Epilepsy Action exists to improve the lives of everyone affected by epilepsy. For more information, visit

Here is a PDF of the story as it appeared in Epilepsy Today. (complete with photos 🙂 )

Hannah Hiles had always been aware of the potential problems associated with pregnancy and epilepsy – so she was determined to do everything she could to minimise the risks

Babies were the furthest thing from my mind when I was diagnosed with epilepsy. I was 20 years old, in my second year studying Modern Languages at Oxford University. In fact, I was about to move to Germany for a year. No – babies definitely weren’t in the plan.

Still, when I was bluntly told by a young neurologist that I was “at risk of having a deformed baby”, I was horrified. I didn’t hear anything else he said to me that day and I never forgot it.

Many years later, my husband and I decided to try for a baby. I was determined to give our much-wanted little one the best chance of being healthy.

I hadn’t thought about epilepsy for years. Since being diagnosed in 1999, I had been taking 200mg of Tegretol Retard twice a day. (How pleased I was when they renamed it Tegretol Prolonged Release!) Since then, my medication had allowed me to live completely free from symptoms.

Back in 1999, I’d been feeling peculiar for weeks before I knew what was wrong with me. I’d get this strange feeling in my left arm that I’ve never been able to properly describe. “My arm feels like cotton wool,” was one attempt. Even when I moved on from having just a “funny arm” to having a shaky one, I simply carried on with my normal university life.

It was when I came home for the summer that I had a tonic-clonic seizure and was rushed to hospital. They let me come home – but I promptly had another.

It must have been terrifying for my parents, but I can’t remember much from that time. I was in denial and wouldn’t read any of the information I was given. I saw it as a personal failing and was thoroughly affronted. Nothing was going to stop me doing what I’d planned.

Less than two months later, I headed off to Germany to teach English, where I lived on my own in a flat in Erlangen. The following year, I graduated with a 2:1 degree. I got a job as a journalist with the newspaper I had grown up reading in North Staffordshire, The Sentinel.

I went on with my life, taking my tablets twice a day but otherwise untroubled by epilepsy. I had dealt with my diagnosis – or not, as the case may be – simply by not thinking about it.

After marrying my husband Andrew in 2007, we moved to a different town. My new doctor wanted me to see a specialist, as I hadn’t seen anyone since 1999. They were surprised that I’d never been encouraged to come off my tablets. They wanted me to give it a try, particularly as we were hoping to start a family.

Frankly, I was terrified.

I was a dreadful patient, sobbing through my appointments and tests. I found the MRI scan stressful and claustrophobic, and was grouchy about the EEG. All the feelings that I had never faced over the years bubbled over, especially at the loss of my driving licence while I reduced my medication.

I had a wonderfully calming specialist nurse, Phil Tittensor at Cannock Chase District Hospital. He ran through all my options and shared my test results – both were more or less normal.

Despite this, I just couldn’t do it in the end. I was so worried about having a seizure that I couldn’t sleep and not sleeping was making me feel ill. Feeling ill was making me worry that I would have a seizure, and so on. It became a vicious circle.

Phil and I decided that the best option was for me to start taking the tablets again. I was taking a low dose of the safest drug. This would only increase the risk of a major problem with any potential baby by one per cent. Even then, I still felt guilty that I could be putting my baby at risk because of my own fears.

To lessen the risk of spina bifida, I was prescribed extra-strong folic acid. I took five milligrams, compared to the 400 micrograms recommended to women who aren’t taking anti-epileptic drugs. I had to take that for six months before we even started trying to conceive, then throughout my pregnancy.

In December 2010, we finally got that blue line on the pregnancy test. We were over the moon. I started showing quite early so I ended up telling people when I was only about two months pregnant. I was so excited – but always had the words “deformed baby” at the back of my mind. Would my baby have spina bifida or another malformation, such as a cleft palate?

Phil provided me with a lot of reassuring and up-to-date information about mothers-to-be who take anti-epileptic drugs (AEDs). I signed up for the UK Epilepsy and Pregnancy Register to allow my experiences to feed into their research.

I was very conscious that I was receiving excellent support from Phil, but that not all women with epilepsy are so fortunate. I even emailed the author of an otherwise excellent pregnancy book, who stated that carbamazepine was one of the worst AEDs to take while pregnant. (She thanked me and said she would amend it in future editions.)

The ultrasound scans were amazing – the first time I saw my tiny baby on screen was one of the best moments of my life. But I kept asking the sonographers: “Is he moving his legs? Can you see his spine? How is his mouth?”

I was seizure-free and healthy throughout my pregnancy. I never really got that ‘glow’ that people talk about, though. I was enormous – and was always being asked if I was sure I was only having one!

Because of my epilepsy, I was considered a ‘high-risk’ pregnancy (no water birth for me). I saw the consultant obstetrician, who was happy with my health and that of my baby. There were only two adjustments I had to make. I had to have regular blood tests during pregnancy [this is not the case for all women with epilepsy]. I also had to avoid using pethidine to relieve pain during labour. My birth plan consisted of just the following three points.

  • I would prefer not to have continuous monitoring.
  • I want no pethidine under any circumstances.
  • Andrew does not want to cut the cord.

As it turned out, I would be extremely glad that I was ‘forced’ to have the continuous ‘high-risk’ monitoring that I didn’t want.

My due date came and went. I began to feel like I was never actually going to give birth. I went for walks, ate curries and pineapple, and bounced on my birthing ball – all to no avail.

I finally went into labour 11 long days after my due date. Thanks to the monitoring equipment, medical staff quickly realised that the cord was around my baby’s neck. Every time I had a contraction his heart rate was dropping.

When this became more serious, they rushed me in to surgery for an emergency Caesarean. Just 10 minutes later Alex was delivered on his Daddy’s birthday in August 2011. He was in perfect health, weighing 8lb 8.5oz. We couldn’t believe that he was finally with us – and with no spina bifida, cleft palate, or any other abnormality at all. We would have loved him no matter what, of course – but the relief was indescribable.

My husband and I had no real experience of babies, so looking after Alex was a steep (but wonderful) learning curve. I am still breastfeeding him 17 months on. I was never concerned about passing the medication through my milk – he had already been exposed to it for months in the womb. Even the inevitable lack of sleep that comes with a new baby didn’t have any effect on my epilepsy.

Having Alex is a dream come true. He brings so much light into our lives. Every day it is exciting to see what else he can do. He loves toddling about and shouting “hello” to everyone he sees.

One unexpected plus is that I no longer have those negative feelings about having epilepsy. I wanted to give my much longed-for baby the best possible start. That forced me to face epilepsy head-on – which finally enabled me to come to terms with my diagnosis.

Editor’s note: carbamazepine is actually one of the better epilepsy drugs to take during pregnancy. Although all AEDs carry some risk, the risk attached to carbamazepine is very low. In the general population, between one and two babies in every hundred might be born with a malformation. In a woman taking carbamazepine, that risk is increased to 2.4 per cent – between three and four babies in every hundred.